Q:can you report someone for lying about their age? there's a 40 year old man that keeps messaging me but his age says he is 23, and he won't leave me alone. I blocked him, but he kept trying to say that because his pics show that he is obviously older then there's nothing wrong with listing himself as 23. If guys are into younger girls that's fine, as long as they realize that not all younger girls will be into them, but they shouldn't try and trick people
Yes yes yes! You can definitely report someone for that—I’ve done it before. Help get this creepster off OKC. Tricking people is never okay.
Well, just saying ‘hi’ would have taken me less time to read, and it wouldn’t have contained the unutterably creepy ‘hehe’. But you tried.
PS ruggish is not a word. Perhaps you meant rogueish, or rugged, neither of which would have improved this message much.
A handy flowchart to answer the question once and for all.
Pro tip for all our male followers!
Q:Noooo. A fellow UK male used the word "shaftable"? I put ridiculous effort into OKC messages yet some people just literally open with "you are naught but an object to mine eye" and expect to get somewhere? Granted I've never messaged a person specifically looking for casual sex but one assumes you just chat normally for a bit and if there's a glimmer of interest work on it from there. But not thaaaat. Never that. I'd sooner watch The Room again with director's commentary than start that way.
If this was an OKC message I’d respond to it.A (the shaftable UK one)
Sometimes I get death threats. Granted, I didn’t respond politely in the first place, but they make me wonder why I go on dates and have casual sex and, to some degree, put my life into strangers’ hands.
I feel gross and unsafe.
Reposting because of today’s anon message.
We mostly post boring, repetitive messages because that’s what we get. Hundreds of them. But we also get things like this, and I’m tired of it. I keep blogging because it is not safe to be a woman in the public sphere. It is not safe for me to try to find casual sex. If someone from OKC rapes me, I bet no jury would convict them because my profile exists and that means that “I’m asking for it.”
The mildly creepy messages that we get aren’t okay because they help normalize more violent, misogynistic messages like this one.
Q:why do you even use okcupid? fodder for this blog? i found this amusing at first but now it's just annoying. most of these guys that try to talk to you aren't even that creepy, they're just desperate. making fun of them is sad...
We use it because there are great people out there and we’ve all had lovely experiences with a lot of people we really liked. We don’t have troll accounts; we do this in good faith.
Maybe we could be tighter about only posting messages that are genuinely offensive, sure, and that’s a valid comment - but if you think most of these ‘aren’t creepy’, we disagree.